Today, I’ve come to realize that love is not complicated, it’s just that it isn’t the same as portrayed in movies and books. It goes beyond that.
When you unexpectedly fall head over heels for someone and enter a relationship, there’s one thing you are never prepared for: to say goodbye. And, even when you expect it, saying goodbye to the Hone you still love deeply is the hardest thing to do. But, circumstances can often force you to walk away from a relationship.
Whether the relationship lasted for just a few months or a couple of years, it is always going to hurt. A lot.
And, even if you don’t beg or don’t cry, when you’ll say goodbye, you’ll eventually die inside.
Oh, and I admit that I wrote this blog through tears.
Know Why You Need To Stay Goodbye
The thing about love is that it can happen when you don’t expect it to. You cannot choose who to fall in love with or in what circumstances.
Love, I’d say, is vulnerability.
The kind of love where you love someone but cannot end up with them will always get you hurt.
The harsh truth is when you realize it might have been “the true one”, but there’s no other way than a goodbye.
The reason doesn’t always have to be a toxic relationship or a lack of chemistry.
Whether it’s a huge age difference or a Romeo and Juliet problem (with families disliking each other), it’s always hard when you end up with a broken heart, but you need to make sure you are not making a decision you’ll end up regretting.
Write It Out
You don’t want to say a shoddy goodbye to the person you’ve loved the most. This is why face-to-face conversations are always favored. However, we often make the mistake of repressing our love and talking with logic instead, which is so wrong.
In this case, only writing can help to better relay your feelings to your beloved.
Honestly, it doesn’t matter how you write or how much you write. Just get the feelings and words out.
Let me give you an example of what I wanted to write to the one person I love and trust the most:
“They say love isn’t only about taking but also giving, but I think you gave me more than I did. You gave me respect, trust, warmth, your honesty and abundant love. You made me smile, laugh and now cry over how there can be no one else like you.
You were more than the pearl of my heart… you were my best friend, my rock and safe haven. I’d found your little antics cute and your sweet anger irresistibly adorable. I’d loved when you cared for me. I’d loved when you used to tie my hair. I’d loved when you used to roll your shirt’s sleeves. I felt really special when you called me “tiny.”
I’m neither going to forget nor going to regret it.
It’s not because I love you, it’s because I only love you.”
It sounds a lot cheesy, but that came from the heart, so…
Here, forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean when you have been wronged by someone or vice versa.
The reason why many start falling apart in depression and get horribly sick is because you are not able to let go of that dreading conflict inside of you. Unless you forgive yourself, the burden is not going anywhere, anytime soon.
Saying goodbye to your beloved is a gut-wrenching pain – I know that too well- but if you don’t want to make it much more insufferable as it already is, you need to let forgiveness in.
One moment, you were literally imagining your future with someone and the next, you’ve become a stranger. It was not easy at all for me to write this article, but sharing my pain with you somehow promises me that there is still hope somewhere.
My last advice would be not to despise yourself or anyone else. Instead, make amends with your heart and convince it that you’ve crossed roads with love and you had the best of times.