It’s not uncommon for sex life to become routine and boring when you’re in a long-term relationship. When a couple has been together for a few years, each partner might develop certain habits and routines, such as how they initiate sex, what positions they use, and how often they do it.
It’s important to note that your sexual desires and activities might change based on what’s going on in your life and how you’re feeling. Which Is fine…but you may want to rekindle the spicy sex life you used to enjoy as well.
There is a lot that can be done to make intimacy more enjoyable. The qualities that couples say they miss more in long-term relationships are mostly originality, intrigue, and playfulness. You may want to reintroduce these missing aspects into your sex life. It will undoubtedly make a difference in your relationship. Here are five things you should try…
1. Update Your Foreplay
Foreplay is underrated, and some people tend to limit theirs. There is no right or wrong way to approach foreplay, and you don’t have to cuddle, stroke, or kiss for hours before moving on to sex. A few minutes of foreplay might be enough.
Incorporating foreplay into your routine will rev up your brains and get your body primed and ready for action. You may want to consider the following:
1. Consider buying sex games, for example, sex dice. It will include instructions and guidelines on what to do.
2. Another way to spice up foreplay is dirty talk. This is often skipped, while it can be a very impactful step. Talk about how you feel, what you want and about what you are thinking. Be as raw as you feel comfortable with, and don’t be shy about throwing in the occasional smolder and smile.
3. Massages with oils are a great turn on too. Light up some scented candles, play some music and get into the mood.
5. Skin contact should be favored. Caress your partner’s face, run your fingers through their hair, and tickle the insides of their arms, stomach, and thighs softly. Whatever feels nice to you.
2. Add Sex Toys
If you want to spice up your sex life, you might want to try adding sex toys. Be aware that adding sex toys do not mean that you are not good enough for your partner. It only means that you want to try something new in bed with them.
It also indicates you’re open to trying new things when it comes to pleasing yourself and your spouse (which is a good thing). When it comes to experimenting, sex toys are a great place to start.
3. Don’t Be Afraid of Quickies
Even when you are still in love with and attracted to your spouse, the work pattern and home life might make it difficult to experience the crazy-hot desire that originally pulled you together. It is normal for long-term couples to notice that the spark has faded, but did you know that quickies can bring them back.
Quickies will let you know that your partner suddenly wants you will bring back memories of your early days together when you couldn’t keep your hands off each other.
4. Wear Your Lingerie
When you’ve been in a long-term relationship, whether marriage, cohabitation or just dating, you tend to take certain things for granted. We frequently slack off when it comes to putting forth the effort, which leads to monotonous patterns.
It might be tough to break the monotony, but it is possible. Spicing up your lingerie collection is an excellent technique to rekindle the romance in the bedroom. Lingerie is available in various sizes, colors, and cuts, ranging from lace-trimmed to form-fitting; you may want to vary too, depending on the occasion and the effect that you want. For example, on a regular workday, the fantastic idea is to invest in a flirtatious outfit in your partner’s favorite color to attract their attention.
5. Discuss Your Fantasies
If you are trying different ways to spice up your relationship (or a hookup!), it might be time to try out your sexual fantasies. But, before you hurry online to buy whips and chains for your next session, make sure you talk to your partner first.
A lot of people seem to equate fantasies with the practices talked about in Fifty Shades of Grey, but would be aware that fantasies are not limited to bondage, discipline, domination and submission (BDSM). In fact, fantasies can be as mundane as a particular position, to as exotic as semi-public lovemaking. Talk it over with each other before exploring your wildest fantasies.
Note that communication is the key element in all the tips mentioned above. Make sure that your partner is okay with the next steps and that they feel confident and comfortable before introducing something new. Share with us what tips you have to spice up your sex life…