eeping pace with everyday life is already challenging and when some recurring issues kick in our relationship, we can find it very daunting to take care of our love life. Are you in this situation right now? We understand how painful it can be and we are here to help. In this article, we give you useful tips on how to strengthen your relationship. And don’t worry, it won’t be that complicated. Happy reading!
First, you should understand that feelings can be triggered through behaviors. Many people tend to think that they don’t feel enough for their partner. Yet, we develop emotions through what we do and the more we engage in something, the stronger we feel. Our advice is that you stop thinking about “love” as a noun because, “love” in the end is a verb that requires actions.
Emotions and Feelings Fluctuate
If falling in love is an appetizer, love is the main course. The transition from the feverish stage of infatuation (or the honeymoon phase as we call it) to the lukewarmness of everyday love can be troubling. Many find comfort in entering a deeper phase of love, but there are times, days or even weeks when that enormous bond that holds you together no longer seems so strong.
You might think that you still feel the same way about your partner, but the truth is that you don’t. Just like your work isn’t exciting every day, or your friend is just as fun every day, it is the same for your love life. You can’t keep analyzing how you feel every day; some days it’s a little harder to be super in love than others.
However, when you notice that there’s a fixed pattern of negativity, that’s when you might want to start questioning whether you should be together.
One of the most common pitfalls in a relationship is that daily tasks rob you of quality time that you could be spending together. You begin to take each other for granted. And, especially if you live together and don’t have to plan your time together, this can easily happen.
We understand that there’s work, kids and endless house chores and activities to do. But, if you want your relationship to be healthy, it’s important to try to break this pattern. Like you need your “me time”, you should also invest in creating new memories with your partner.
One tremendous mistake is to think you should do things together the way you did in the beginning: travel and have exciting dates. Sure, that can be fun, but most people don’t have the opportunity to do it all the time.
Instead, what you need to do is to make small changes in your daily lifestyle and start prioritizing your relationship. For instance, sometimes you can choose to cancel activities simply to have lunch together or turn off the TV to chat over a cup of tea.
Few things can make a person feel as validated and this includes the feeling of being listened to. A simple way to make the other person feel heard is to actively listen to them. To let your spouse know you’ve been listening to him/her you can just acknowledge that you remember something he/she told you before.
You can also follow up by asking about things you’ve talked about before, how the day has been or how that meeting he/she was so nervous about finally went. These are things that signal that your partner is important to you, which also increases trust.
Have you being following some other useful steps to strengthen your relationship with your other half? We would love to read about them; remember to tell us everything about them in the comment section below.