Having trust in your relationship is difficult at first, but it is possible. For psychologists, trust in relationships goes beyond love and passion. It involves other feelings that are the fundamental pillars of any human relationship.
When passion builds a relationship based on the absence of certain values, such as respect and sincerity, trust is the first treasure to be destroyed.
Trust is like a seal, once it has been broken, the repair work can be complex. This is why it is important to always cultivate trust in the relationship.
And one thing is certain: the more we know about the people we are close to, the more we radicalize our relationship, positively or negatively.
A simple suspicion may seem “normal”, but by the time you maintain a fact that cannot be swept under the rug, it may be too late. Therefore, honest communication in the relationship is one of the main weapons to improve the couple’s trust.
Today, let’s have a closer look at the importance of trust in a relationship and how it can affect the relationship when there is a lack of it in a couple.
The Importance of Trust
The acquisition of trust, as we have seen, is the process of building the fundamental pillar of any human relationship. But when that trust begins to wane, when the seal breaks, it leaves the door open to a myriad of undesirable problems and circumstances.
You can’t build trust in a relationship by a simple trick! It is like planting a tree, for it to grow it is necessary to take care of all its development.
A relationship of trust is the result of a process built with the gift of both. In addition to affection, it is necessary to cultivate a sense of marital well-being.
The Consequences of a Lack of Trust in the Relationship
There are many factors that cause a person to not trust their partner. In general, the main complaints attributed to the breakdown of trust are betrayal, lying, frustration, fear, aggression and abuse, etc.
And, in almost all cases, the nature of the distrust stems from emotional problems related to insecurity or trauma experienced at an early age.
It is common to hear today that people should no longer trust anyone. This is a logic of urban violence that eventually spills over into other areas of our lives, such as relationships. It is as if “constant distrust” is a lifeline.
Thus, the consequences of lack of trust in the relationship can be cruel to the person. As stated earlier, many people try to stay in a position of constant distrust in order to avoid future disappointment in love.
The problem becomes significant when this distrust affects the other, generating arguments and the breakdown of the relationship. To avoid living a life of ostracism, the couple must first understand that trust is the bond that unites all elements of a relationship. Without it, relationships are severely compromised, they can be damaged and suffer greatly.
Fights and confrontations lead to more than just pain and suffering. Often, accusations of mistrust lead to guilt on the part of the abuser. And this is a stage that easily generates anxiety and other emotional disturbances.
So-called “abusive” relationships are those in which the partner tends to manipulate aspects of the couple’s life in his or her favor. And the process of deconstructing trust can accelerate its pace.
And one of the worst consequences of lack of trust is to defend the idea that no relationship can exist honestly. This is because “your” own experience has been traumatized by several factors.
Now that you know how trust is important in a relationship and how a lack of it can have a negative impact on the couple bond, let’s try to improve trust in your relationship. Not sure how to proceed? We will soon publish a post on how to improve trust in relationships so come check it out.
Have you noticed a lack of trust in your own relationship? What are the causes? Share your experience with those challenges in the comments below.